*sigh* can a school year go by without something happening with my child at school?!!! Before you get the wrong impression, no she’s not a problem child. I can’t claim to know how she acts when I’m not around her…..buuutttt she acts tough (not in a bully way), with no follow through.
But anyways, her dad calls me and is like “The nurse called and said some boy pushed her”. *tires screeching* 
Now I’m ready to ride to the school and beat some ass..even though school’s been over for at least 3 hours at this point. “So what happened??“. “Some boy pushed her and she may have bumped her head. They kept her in the nurse’s office for a bit”. *heavy silence* *extreme side eyes* “Ok. So what happened with the boy?“. “I’m not sure. The nurse didn’t know the outcome outside of him going to the office”. Mentally: Jesus take the wheel bc I might have to kill a kid and a couple teachers.
I already don’t really like my daughter’s school and this is just another strike. Like, why didn’t someone in the office call us? I don’t care if it was minor or not. What happened with the boy? Did he get in trouble? Or just taken out of class? Ughhhhhhh.
But what’s running through the back of my head is: how do I get her to defend herself? For whatever reason, at least once every school year, someone will hit, push, shove her. Don’t ask me why. My first response is always what happened obviously. But silently, it’s where are they so they can catch these hands. Followed with, I’m not about to go to jail for beating somebody’s child. Next, I’m just trying to find out why she didn’t defend herself. (No I’m not asking her to start a fight over it). But I strongly believe that if someone puts their hands on you, you respond in kind. They push you, push them back. Hit you, hit them back, etc. I’ve always been taught to defend myself in a way that the person knows not to mess with me again. Although, I didn’t follow that advice much, but I’ve only been in one fight. (Bc siblings don’t count 😆).
But the reason why not is something I’m stuck at. I can’t say what the reason is this time bc she isn’t home yet, but typically it’s just I don’t know. And it’s not like she can’t defend herself. Bc between her cousins and her I could have a little kid’s WWF. Is it getting in trouble? We’ve assured her if she’s defending herself she won’t be. Is she just scared? I don’t know how to combat that one quite yet honestly. I’m more likely to walk away instead of fighting if the situation doesn’t call for it. Is it from witnessing the aftermath of someone else’s fight? Her cousins are fighters, so this wouldn’t surprise me at all.
I’m kind of at a loss. How many different ways do you say the same thing? How else do I approach this in a way that sticks? Is this one of those someone else says it and that’s what stays with them things? I’m at a loss and frustrated. This is definitely one of those don’t worry mommy’s got it moments for me. But I can’t. I can’t fight her battles for her. I need her to learn to stand on her own so she’s not helpless when no one else is around. 😧
Can I get a real adult to step in? Let’s tag team this.
Midnight Mocha 